How can couples restore respect which is the foundation of a good marriage?

Remember why you fell in love. Look for things in your spouse you first felt attracted to that go deeper than the physical. Start a new routine: greet each other each morning and say good night at bedtime. Appreciate each other throughout the day by thanking each other for doing what is needed to care for the family.

Honor each other by building each other up in front of others (and the children) instead of passing blame or hinting subtly about your disappointment about unmet expectations. Make a date to talk about serious issues and be willing to seek help if there are deep-seated issues. Invite your spouse to share their heart and listen without interrupting. Commit to meeting each other halfway instead of demanding the other one to change.

Change your vocabulary and verbally affirm and encourage one another. It’s not about who’s right or wrong – you are supposed to be on the same side! Choose to walk through difficulties together instead of withdrawing or sulking. Stop manipulative behaviour as it doesn’t honour God. Admit to one’s shortcomings and learn to say: “I’m sorry” and make a point of saying “I forgive you, let’s do better together.”
It’s possible to restore the erosion in your marriage if both parties are willing to sacrificially love and respect each other again. Yes, it’s a lot of effort, but a good marriage is worth fighting for.